Celestine Prophecy

"When love first happens, the two individuals are giving each other energy unconsciously and both people feel buoyant and elated. Thats the incredible high we all call being "in love." Unfortunately, once they expect this feeling to come from the other person, they cut themselves off from the energy in the universe and begin to rely even more on the energy from each other--only now there doesn't seem to be enough and so they stop giving each other energy and fall back...in an attempt to control each other and force the other's energy their way. At this point the relationship degenerates into the usual power struggle...The reason we become addicted to someone of the opposite sex is that we've yet to access this opposite sex energy ourselves. You see, the mystical energy that we can tap as an inner source is both male and female. We can eventually open up to it, but when we first begin to evolve, we have to be careful...We're all stuck at the stage where we are still looking for our opposite-sex energy outside of ourselves, in the person of a male or female we can think of as ideal and magical and can possess sexually...In terms of our ability to evolve consciously, we are faced with a critical situation...when we first begin to evolve, we automatically begin to receive our opposite-sex energy. It comes naturally from the energy in the universe...if another person comes along who offers this energy directly we can cut ourselves off from the true source...and regress...we are walking around like a circle half complete. You know, we look like the letter C. We are very susceptible to a person of the opposite sex, some other circle half complete, coming up and joining with us--completing the circle that way--and giving us a burst of euphoria and energy that feels like the wholeness that a full connection with the universe produces. In reality, we have only joined up with another person who is looking for their other half on the outside too...it has taken two people to make t his one whole person, one supplying the female energy and one supplying the male. This one whole person consequently has two heads, or egos. Both people want to run this whole person they have created and so...both people want to command each other...In the end, each person must take each other for granted and even invalidate them so that they can lead this whole self...we can still have romance...But first we have to complete the circle on our own. We have to stabilize our channel with the universe. That takes time, but afterward we are never susceptible to this problem again and we can have...a higher-relationship. When we connect romantically with another whole person after that, we create a super person...but it never pulls us from the path of our individual evolution...By resisting the 'love at first sight' feeling for a while, by learning to have platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex...By understanding who these opposite sexed friends really are on the inside, one breaks past one's own fantasy projection about that gender, and that releases us to connect again with the universe. The idea is to begin to experience that sense of well-being and euphoria experienced in the first moment of a co-dependent relationship when you are alone. After that, you evolve forward and can find that special romantic relationship that really fits you."

"The Celestine Prophecy" by James Redfield

Without man, a woman is incomplete, just as the man is incomplete without a woman. There is only one exception: if you become enlightened, then your inner woman and your inner man make a completion. But without enlightenment you remain half - you have to become complete by meeting with the other sex on the outside. Otherwise, everybody has both, because you are born out of the meeting of a man and woman; your father has contributed, your mother has contributed. You are carrying your father and mother both within you.-Osho, "The New Dawn"

The real orgasm happens inside you when your inner man and inner woman meet. It has to be so, because half of your being comes from your father and half of your being comes from your mother -- you are both. An inner orgasm, an inner meeting, and inner union is needed. But to reach to that inner union you will have to find a woman outside who responds to the inner woman, who vibrates your inner being, and your inner woman, who is lying fast asleep, awakes. Through the outer woman, you have to meet the inner woman; and the same for the man. - Osho, "Love, Freedom, Aloneness"