Library...

"He was troubled by the domination of education by examinations, a domination that has only strengthened in the years since his death, and by the emphasis of teachers on memorization of facts, what Paulo Freire disparagingly calls "banking education." Such education is not only irrelevant and boring but ultimately miseducative, Makiguchi agreed, and destructive to the individual and to the society, both of which must be forward looking; education must connect to life as it is lived and enrich it."
Robert Bullough, Jr., on Makiguchi, from "Education for Creative Living"

Wonderful Morning

Pure Light Within You

"The last words of Gautama the Buddha on the earth were: Be a light unto yourself. Do not follow others, do not imitate, because imitation, following, creates stupidity. You are born with a tremendous possibility of intelligence. You are born with a light within you. Listen to the still, small voice within, and that will guide you. Nobody else can guide you, nobody else can become a model for your life, because you are unique. There has never been anyone who was exactly like you, and nobody is ever again going to be exactly like you. This is your glory, your grandeur -- that you are utterly irreplaceable, that you are just yourself and nobody else."
-Osho

"don't get freaked out by the pure light within you
no, don't let it freak you out
just go with it
because if you don't go with it
it will just take you where it wants to be
which is cool too, if you have the time"
-chris robinson

Flowing back to the Met

"There is a music that is uncreated, that is just there as an undercurrent in our being; it is the music of inner harmony. There is also a music in the outer sphere -- the harmony of the stars, the planets; the whole of existence is like an orchestra. Except for human beings, nothing is out of tune; everything is in tremendous harmony. That's why trees have so much grace, and the animals and the birds. Only humanity has become ugly, and the reason is that we have tried to improve ourselves; we have tried to become something.

The moment desire to become arises, one becomes ugly, one falls out of tune, because existence knows only being; becoming is a fever in the mind. Human beings are never contented. That discontent creates ugliness, because people are full of complaints, only complaints and nothing else. People want this, they want that, and they are never fulfilled; even if they get, they want more. The "more" persists -- the mind goes on asking for more and more. Becoming is the disease of man.

The moment one drops becoming, suddenly a music is heard. And when that music starts overpouring, starts flowing all over you and then beyond you to other people, it becomes a sharing. This is the grace of the Buddhas. They are full of inner music, harmony, and the harmony goes on overflowing; it reaches other people also."

-Osho

meditation confirmation

"That's why when you are alone, sitting silently, not with anybody--in a tremendous celibate state, just alone--one becomes replenished, rejuvenated. Thats why meditation makes you younger, makes you livelier. You start sharing something with existence. Your energy is frozen no more, it starts flowing...In meditation you become simple: The future is your concern no more. That's what meditation is all about: dropping the concern with past and future, being herenow...And whenever it happens, whenever only this moment exists -- watching a sunrise, or looking at a white cloud floating in the sky...whenever you forget all about past and future and the present moment takes possession of you, when you are utterly possessed by this moment, you will feel rejuvenated."
Osho, "Intelligence"

meditation

"Meditation is not something that you do. It is, only when your doer has gone and you are totally relaxed and not doing anything, in a deep state of let-go, rest - there is meditation. Then meditation flowers. It is the flowering of your being. It has nothing to do with becoming. It is not an achievement, it is not an improvement; it is just being that which you already are."
-Osho

Many people view meditation as a solution, a way to BRING happiness or relief or peace of mind, when rather it is supposed to come AFTER those things. Its backwards to be seeking meditation and almost impossible to really achieve it when you are burdened by all the things that are making you seek meditation as your solution. The real approach is actually to change your problems, issues, burdens, or at least your view on them, and find your own happiness, and when you experience that inner joy and peace, a meditative state follows naturally. You find it in all the spaces in between, in all the moments where you are only in that moment in that second, only breathing, wanting nothing more.

expectation

how simple it is to drop expectation when living in the moment.
there is no room for developing expectations of the future
when the future is not present.
and you will find each little gift of life
a happy surprise.
you will find yourself exceeding
whatever it is you could have expected,
as your limited experience would only allow
for limited expectation

"People who have great desires can never feel grateful, because whatever happens is always tiny compared to their desires...If there is no desire, if you have no idea what should happen, the things happen. Those things are already happening, but now you take note of them. You feel tremendously thrilled because this has happened and you had no expected anything...remain open in gratefulness."
-Osho

And once again, the daily meditation becomes reality...

So interestingly yesterday I posted the Osho "daily meditation" about not using words if you simply can't express something, because words would just limit the experience. I had the experience of that just the night before, not realizing how it would prove itself truthful once again later that day...

No words...

The daylily is called such because it only blooms for one day, forcing you to appreciate its beauty that moment. A valuable lesson can be learned there, like many that nature pass along to the inferior human race. Be grateful for each day you are given, and take time to appreciate the beautiful simplicity of the moment.

"Love is wild, and the moment one tries to domesticate it, it is destroyed. Love is a whirlwind of freedom, of wildness, of spontaneity.


...If it is possible, live an experience and don't fix it with any words, because that will make it narrow.

You are sitting..it is a silent evening. The sun has gone, and the stars have started appearing. Just be. Don' even say, "This is beautiful," because the moment you say that it is beautiful, it is no longer the same. By saying beautiful, you are bringing it in the past, and all the experiences that you said were beautiful have colored the word.

Why bring in the past? The present is so vast, and the past is so narrow. Why look from a hole in the wall when you can come out and look at the whole sky?

So try not to use words, but if you have to, then be very choosy about them, because each word has a nuance of its own. So be poetic about it.

Osho

...at this rate, I'm going to have to invent new words; possibly an original alphabet is called for?
In all seriousness and in general, don't make your choice to want or not want, like or dislike something based on what that thing's popular perception and definition has always been. Deconstruct, undefine, and redefine when ready. You decide what the experiences in your life are able to become, to signify, and to impact.

Freedom FOR...

Tuscan Cafe, Warwick, NY

To...

I could never lose myself
In the one who helped me find myself
Who helped me see that to just let go
and be true to myself
was the best way to just be

Oh, the wisdom, and its occurence...

Thank goodness this happened before I read this, or else I, being conscious of its development, would not have been able to let go and let it.

"...our quest for permanence is pure futility...happiness only exists in relation to misery...the perceptive man does not try to separate them...he learns to abandon all desire for any happiness separate from misery, or pleasure apart from pain...
All political propaganda, all advertising, and most of what we call education is based on the assumption that "there is a Way," and that its only a matter of "know-how." (If some of the details haven't quite been worked out yet, just give the scientists a few more months and they'll have it.)
...All striving and grasping is so much smoke in the clutch of a dissolving hand. We are all lost -- kicked off into a void the moment we were born -- and the only way is to fall into oblivion...
...Just watching. Not trying to get anything. Not expecting anything. Not hoping. Not seeking. Not trying to relax. Just watching, without purpose...
'A watched pot never boils.' We are all familiar with the many involuntary acts of the human body which never happen so long as we are trying to make them happen, so long as we are anxious about them -- going to sleep, remembering a name, or, under certain circumstances, sexual excitation. Well, there is something like this which happens upon the sole condition that we are not trying to make it happen, that we have realized clearly that we cannot make it happen. In Zen, it is called satori, sudden awakening."

Alan Watts, "Become What You Are"

Rooted

"And when a person meditates he starts flowering...When you are silent, rooted in your being, centered, your talents automatically start functioning. You start functioning the way existence always wanted you to function...You become spontaneous. You start doing your thing -- and now you don't bother whether it pays or not, whether it makes you more respectable or not. It makes you happy, and that's enough. It makes you tremendously joyful, and that is more than enough."

-Osho, "Joy"

all around you

"I believe this is something all of us can do: Try to be happy within
the context of the life we are actually living. Happiness is not a
situation to be longed for or a convergence of lucky happenstance.
Through the power of our own minds, we can help ourselves. This I
believe."
-Wayne Coyne

"the first thing to be understood about happiness is that it cannot be practiced. It has only to be allowed, because it is not something you create...what you create cannot be bigger than you...it has to be received as a gift in tremendous trust, in total surrender. In a state of let-go true happiness happens. "

"Happiness happens when you fit with your life, when you fit so harmoniously that whatsoever you are doing is your joy...If you love the work you are doing, if you love the way you are living...A celebrating attitude comes first. A life-affirming philosophy comes first. Enjoy! If you cannot enjoy your work, change. Don't wait! Because all the time that you are waiting you are waiting for Godot and Godot is never going to come. One simply waits and wastes one's life. For whom, for what are you waiting?...You have to decide for yourself, you have to take your life in your own hands."

osho, "joy"

"Why do so many people look so dull, bored, just passing the days somehow? Passing tremendously valuable time which they will not be able to recover-and passing with such dullness, as if only waiting for death. What has happened to so many people? Why don't they have the same freshness as the trees? Why doesn't man have the same song as the birds?"

osho, "intelligence"

Humanity's evolution

"This education only makes you capable of memorizing. That education will make you capable of more clarity...It will not encourage repetition, parroting. It will encourage inventiveness...
Education should not be competitive...Somebody is not good at mathematics and you call him mediocre. And he may be good at carpentry, but nobody looks at that. Somebody is not good at literature and you call her stupid - and she will be good at music, at dance. A real education will help people to find their life where they can be fully alive...This world can be such a great, intelligent world if a child is allowed to be himself or herself, helped, supported in every way, and nobody interferes"

-Osho, "Intelligence"

"Think of what has occurred already in this millennium. During the Middle Ages we lived in a simple world of good and evil, defined by the churchmen. But during the Renaissance we broke free. We knew there had to be more to man's situation in the universe than the churchmen knew, and we wanted the full story.
We then sent science out to discover our true nature, but when this effort didn't provide the answers we needed right away, we decided to settle in, and turned out modern work ethic into a preoccupation that secularized reality and squeezed the mystery out of the world. But now, we can see the truth of that preoccupation. We can see that the real reason we spent five centuries creating material supports for human life was to set the stage for something else, a way of life that returns the mystery to existence.
That is what the information now returning from the scientific method indicates: mankind is on this planet to continuously evolve...the human race will first experience a period of intense introspection. We'll grasp how beautiful and spiritual the natural world really is. We'll see trees and rivers and mountains as temples of great power to be held in reverence and awe. We'll demand an end to any economic activity that threatens this treasure...
This will be the first great shift that will occur...which will be a dramatic movement of individuals from one occupation to another -- because when people begin to receive clear intuitions of who they really are and what they're supposed to be doing, they very often discover they're in the wrong job and they have to jump to another type of work in order to continue to grow...
The rest of us, meanwhile, will be following our own intuitions within our chosen occupations and wishing we had even more of this free time...We will be entering the stage of getting paid for evolving freely and offering our unique truth to others...If everyone were participating then we would be giving and receiving constantly and this interaction with others, this exchange of information, would become everyone's new work, our new economic orientation"

James Redfield, "The Celestine Prophecy"

think>question>grow

The fact that a believer is happier than a skeptic is no more to the point than the fact that a drunken man is happier than a sober one.
-George Bernard Shaw

"Life is a beautiful journey if it is a process of constant learning, exploration. Then it is excitement every moment, because every moment you are opening a new door...Learning automatically consists of doubting, of questioning, of being skeptical, of being curious -- not of being a believer certainly, because a believer never learns...If, by understanding, your intelligence feels satisfied and you do something out of that, you are not following an order from the outside; you are following your own intelligence."
-Osho, "Intelligence"

Damien Rice: Cannonball

Still a little bit of your taste in my mouth

Still a little bit of you laced with my doubt
Still a little hard to say what's going on

Still a little bit of your ghost your witness
Still a little bit of your face I haven't kissed
You step a little closer each day
Still I can't say what's going on

Stones taught me to fly
Love taught me to lie
Life taught me to die
So it's not hard to fall
When you float like a cannonball

Still a little bit of your song in my ear
Still a little bit of your words I long to hear
You step a little closer to me
So close that I can't see what's going on

Stones taught me to fly
Love taught me to lie
Life taught me to die
So it's not hard to fall
When you float like a cannon

Stones taught me to fly
Love taught me to cry
So come on courage!
Teach me to be shy
'Cause it's not hard to fall
And I don't wanna scare her
It's not hard to fall
And I don't wanna lose
It's not hard to grow
When you know that you just don't know

Connection

oh how amazing to connect with people at the right time:

d: there are only two emotions in this world...love and the need to be...not love and hate...the need to be loved is what brings hate, power, greed

me: drop this need, your attachment, your selfishness, drop your expectations, and what is left is love.

d: Precisely…..to me if you say “love & hate” you are in essence making everything “black and white” - Love is just that…anything positive, up, etc… "Hate" merely saying the word evokes darkness…we were never allowed to say “I hate someone or something” when I was younger, my mother wouldn’t hear of it instead we had to say “I dislike that” – which was a wonderful gift…hate puts a lot of negative weight on the soul…

So Love and the Need to be loved to me – suggests a solution, a healing, endless possibilities (not just black and white – love and hate that’s it….after all isn’t that what war is about?)

…..I am not a bliss ninny…….as I realize there are certain dark people in this world….but I think the majority of people “act out” because they are crying out for love…they make look hateful, crazy, rely on substances, etc….but as Maya Angelou said (and she was speaking about parents I believe ….but I hink it applies to everyone…not just our childhoods and our parents) “If they knew better they would have done better” or something like that…..I think most people are “sleep walking”any way.

……….sorry for getting to heavy

me: I just love how you skate on the surface of all the Zen Buddhist stuff I'm learning but you are coming at it from a different background perspective and still saying the same thing...fascinating how that works...goes to show you that its all the same lesson, just in different terms...

me: And the thing is, at least in my interpretation, its not just about HATE, thats why you can't say hate...its just about whatever it is that you NEED that keeps you from being free, and free to LOVE.

take a breather...

I understand that I can flow with changes in my emotions, but how do I ensure that my change is not a de-evolution?

"At this moment your energy needs to be left alone to yourself, hence the fear is coming. Fear is not always wrong, remember. Nothing is always wrong; it depends. People have such ideas that fear is always wrong -- it is not. Yes, sometimes it is wrong, sometimes it is not. Nothing is always right-and nothing is always wrong; everything depends on the context.
Right now your fear is perfectly right -- it simply says to you 'Don't get involved'; hence the fear arises. It is not the fear of the new, not at all; that is a misinterpretation. It is simply fear that if you get entangled in energy, somebody else's energy, you will lose the centering which is growing. You are becoming more centered, you are settling more in your being. You are coming to terms with your aloneness and if you fall into a relationship that will be dragging yourself out. Your movement is inwards; a relationship will take you out and that will create a contradiction. Hence the fear. The fear is really helpful -- it-is showing you not to be foolish.
Remain alone. When the fear disappears move into relationship, then it will be perfectly right. It will disappear -- when its time is gone, when you have settled, when the energy is exactly as it should be inside, then one can afford to go out. First one has to settle inside, then it is easy to go outside, it is not a distraction. In fact it becomes an enhancement of the inner because of the contrast.
It becomes a little holiday from the inner but you always come back. Then it is not destructive, it is creative. Then love helps meditation.
So simply wait. Listen to your fear and don't repress it. It will disappear on its own. When the energy is ready to go out, you will suddenly see one day that you are moving with somebody and there is no fear at all -- your whole being is with you..."
-osho

Live in Love's Now

It has been said that the highest wisdom lies in detachment, or in the words of Chuang-tzu: "The perfect man employs his mind as a mirror; it grasps nothing; it refuses nothing; it receives, but does not keep." Detachment means to have neither regrets for the past nor fears for the future; to let life take its course without attempting to interfere with its movement and change, neither trying to prolong the stay of things pleasant nor to hasten the departure of things unpleasant. To do this is to move in time with life, to be in perfect accord with its changing music...In short, it is to be detached from both past and future and to live in the eternal Now. For in truth neither past nor future have any existence apart from this Now; by themselves they are illusions. Life exists only at this moment, and in this moment it is infinite and eternal. For the present moment is infinitely small; before we can measure it, it has gone, and yet it persists for ever...

Alan Watts, "Become What You Are"

"To ask security for tomorrow means to remain in constant fear. Security is not possible, so...with desire for security in the future you are destroying the present, which is the only life available."

-Osho

"As we follow the Tao, one lesson appears again and again: trust the process...we can learn to flow...We must release our need to control the outcome. We can only do our best, then trust the evolving cycles...Letting go of our attachment to the outcome dispels our fear of failure, for success and failure are polarities that emerge when we try to control things. The Tao transcends polarities. Trusting the process, we evolve beyond old definitions, open to a new insight..."

Diane Dreher, "The Tao of Inner Peace"

"When you don't need a person at all, when you are totally sufficient unto yourself, when you can be alone and tremendously happy and ecstatic, then love is possible. But then too you cannot be certain whether the OTHER'S love is real or not -- you can be certain about only one thing: whether your love is real. How can you be certain about the other? But then there is no need.

This continuous anxiety -- whether the other's love is real or not -- simply shows one thing: that your love is not real. Otherwise, who bothers? Why be worried about it? Enjoy it while it lasts! Be together while you can be together! ... One day when you are really awake you will be able to love -- but then you will be certain about your love only. But that's enough! Who bothers? Because right now you want to use others. When you are really blissful on your own, you don't want to use anybody. You simply want to share. You have so much, so much is overflowing, you would like somebody to share it. And you will feel thankful that somebody was ready to receive. Finished! That is the full point."

-Osho

Freedom

"You come alone, you die alone. Between birth and death, of course you can deceive yourself that someone is with you...but this is just make believe. You come alone, you go alone; you are alone between birth and death.
And I'm not saying that you cannot love a man or a woman. In fact, when two independent, free people, who take responsibility on their own shoulders, meet, there is immense beauty to it. Nobody is a burden to the other...You can be together but your aloneness remains untouched, pure, crystal-clear...
You never trespass on each other's territories. You can enjoy each other just because you are separate. The more separate you are -- the more clearly it is understood that you are alone, she is alone -- the more there is a possibility of a great meeting of two alonenesses, two purities, two individuals."
(Osho)

Freedom For

It is not enough to be industrious; so are the ants. What are you industrious about?
-Thoreau

"Question: I've come to feel a tremendous sense of freedom over the years in the sense that I no longer feel imprisoned by nationality or place, or my own personal history. But there is also a sadness mixed with this freedom. What is this sadness?
Osho's reply: Freedom has two sides and if you experience only one side of it, a single side, you will feel freedom mixed with sadness. You have to understand the whole psychology of freedom.
The first side is freedom FROM: from nationality, from a certain church, a certain race, a certain political ideology. This is the first part of freedom, the foundation of freedom. it is always FROM something. Once you have attained this freedom, you will feel very light and good and happy. And for the first time, you will start rejoicing in your own individuality, because your individuality was covered with all those things that you have become free of.
But this is only one half - and then the sadness will come, because the other half is missing. Freedom FROM is fulfilled, but freedom FOR WHAT? Freedom in itself has no meaning, unless it is freedom FOR something, something creative - freedom to sculpt, freedom to dance, freedom to create music, poetry, painting. Unless your freedom turns into a creative realization, you will feel sad. Because you will see that you are free - your chains are broken, and you are no longer in prison; you are standing under the starry night, completely free. But where do you go?...

...Up to now there was no question of going anywhere-you were imprisoned. Your whole consciousness was concentrated on how to get free, and that was your only anxiety. Now that you are free, a new kind of problem has to be encountered. What to do now that you are free?
Freedom itself does not mean anything unless you choose a creative path. Either you go deeper into meditation for self realization, or, if you have a certain kind of talent that has not been allowed to develop because of your fetters - you could not compose music because your hands were in chains...

...You have to become a creator. You have to find some creativity that fulfills your freedom; otherwise freedom is empty. You need either to create something to discover something, either bring your potential to actuality or go inwards to find yourself, but you need to do something with your freedom. Freedom only provides an opportunity for you; it is not the goal itself. It simply gives you the opportunity to do whatever you want to. When you are free and feeling sad, it is because you have not used this opportunity yet.
Meditation will do, music will do, sculpture, dancing, or love. But do something with your freedom; don't just idly by of you will become sad.
Freedom has to be a creative force in your life, not just a negative one. Now that you are no longer imprisoned, you find yourself standing free beneath the sky, but completely lost...
to be a seeker, a searcher, a creator, but very few people want to go on a pilgrimage, or go deeper into silences of the heart, or take the responsibility of love. The implications are great.
...Freedom is simply an opportunity to find... a true authentic individuality, and the joy in making the world around you a little better and more beautiful ...One who understands that freedom is nothing but an opportunity to make the world a little more beautiful, and to become a little more conscious, will not be sad"
Osho, "Freedom"

Be self, be free

"To be totally free one needs to be totally aware, because our bondage is rooted in our unconsciousness; it does not come from the outside. Nobody can make you unfree. You can be destroyed but your freedom cannot be taken away unless you give it away. In the ultimate analysis it is always your desire to be unfree that makes you unfree. It is your desire to be dependent, your desire to drop the responsibility of being yourself, that makes you unfree.

The moment one takes responsibility for oneself...And remember it is not all roses, there are thorns in it; it is not all sweet, there are many bitter moments in it. The sweet is always balanced by the bitter, they always come in the same proportion...Life keeps a balance between the polar opposites. So one who is ready to accept responsibility of being oneself with all its beauties, bitterness, its joys and agonies, can be free...

And always remember: ecstasy cannot live without agony, life cannot exist without death, and joy cannot exist without sadness...

Accept the responsibility of being yourself as you are, with all that is good and with all that is bad, with all that is beautiful and that which is not beautiful. In that acceptance a transcendence happens and one becomes free."

Osho, "Freedom"

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Intelligence

"Intelligence is just an openness of being -- capacity to see without prejudice, capacity to listen without interference, capacity to be with things without any a priori ideas about them -- that's what intelligence is. Intelligence is an openness of being...Intelligence is to be open to wind, rain, and sun, to be open to all...to remain fresh and innocent is intelligence..Only stupid people are consistent people. The more intelligent you are, the more inconsistent you will be -- because who knows about tomorrow? Tomorrow will bring its own experiences. How can you be consistent with your yesterdays?...If you are alive you HAVE to be inconsistent -- you have grown, the world has changed, the river is flowing into new territory. Yesterday the river was passing through a desert, today it is passing through a forest; it is totally different. Yesterday's experience should not become your definition forever...one should be able to go on moving with time. Once should remain a process, one should never become a thing. That is intelligence."
Osho, "Intelligence"

Celestine Prophecy

"When love first happens, the two individuals are giving each other energy unconsciously and both people feel buoyant and elated. Thats the incredible high we all call being "in love." Unfortunately, once they expect this feeling to come from the other person, they cut themselves off from the energy in the universe and begin to rely even more on the energy from each other--only now there doesn't seem to be enough and so they stop giving each other energy and fall back...in an attempt to control each other and force the other's energy their way. At this point the relationship degenerates into the usual power struggle...The reason we become addicted to someone of the opposite sex is that we've yet to access this opposite sex energy ourselves. You see, the mystical energy that we can tap as an inner source is both male and female. We can eventually open up to it, but when we first begin to evolve, we have to be careful...We're all stuck at the stage where we are still looking for our opposite-sex energy outside of ourselves, in the person of a male or female we can think of as ideal and magical and can possess sexually...In terms of our ability to evolve consciously, we are faced with a critical situation...when we first begin to evolve, we automatically begin to receive our opposite-sex energy. It comes naturally from the energy in the universe...if another person comes along who offers this energy directly we can cut ourselves off from the true source...and regress...we are walking around like a circle half complete. You know, we look like the letter C. We are very susceptible to a person of the opposite sex, some other circle half complete, coming up and joining with us--completing the circle that way--and giving us a burst of euphoria and energy that feels like the wholeness that a full connection with the universe produces. In reality, we have only joined up with another person who is looking for their other half on the outside too...it has taken two people to make t his one whole person, one supplying the female energy and one supplying the male. This one whole person consequently has two heads, or egos. Both people want to run this whole person they have created and so...both people want to command each other...In the end, each person must take each other for granted and even invalidate them so that they can lead this whole self...we can still have romance...But first we have to complete the circle on our own. We have to stabilize our channel with the universe. That takes time, but afterward we are never susceptible to this problem again and we can have...a higher-relationship. When we connect romantically with another whole person after that, we create a super person...but it never pulls us from the path of our individual evolution...By resisting the 'love at first sight' feeling for a while, by learning to have platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex...By understanding who these opposite sexed friends really are on the inside, one breaks past one's own fantasy projection about that gender, and that releases us to connect again with the universe. The idea is to begin to experience that sense of well-being and euphoria experienced in the first moment of a co-dependent relationship when you are alone. After that, you evolve forward and can find that special romantic relationship that really fits you."

"The Celestine Prophecy" by James Redfield

Without man, a woman is incomplete, just as the man is incomplete without a woman. There is only one exception: if you become enlightened, then your inner woman and your inner man make a completion. But without enlightenment you remain half - you have to become complete by meeting with the other sex on the outside. Otherwise, everybody has both, because you are born out of the meeting of a man and woman; your father has contributed, your mother has contributed. You are carrying your father and mother both within you.-Osho, "The New Dawn"

The real orgasm happens inside you when your inner man and inner woman meet. It has to be so, because half of your being comes from your father and half of your being comes from your mother -- you are both. An inner orgasm, an inner meeting, and inner union is needed. But to reach to that inner union you will have to find a woman outside who responds to the inner woman, who vibrates your inner being, and your inner woman, who is lying fast asleep, awakes. Through the outer woman, you have to meet the inner woman; and the same for the man. - Osho, "Love, Freedom, Aloneness"